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Doubts about my relationship

Doubts about your relationship?

Do you have doubts about the relationship you’re in? Do you often have heated discussions or communicate too little with each other? Do you have doubts about the relationship, even to the point where you think the relationship seems to be at a dead-end? Then Monsley's online couples counseling program can offer a solution. This 12-week program is a resource that you and your partner can use to tackle relationship problems for yourselves.

Is this the way to dispel the doubts about the relationship?

Monsley's 12-week program is more accessible than a visit to the relationship therapist. Often couples wait too long to see a relationship therapist, during which time the doubts and problems keep building up. You can follow the Monsley program with your partner without having to discuss your issues with a third party. And you can follow the program from home, so you don’t have to leave the house. take action and save your relationship.

Many couples are ultimately able to resolve the issues in their relationship through the structured support that this online program provides. It is essential, however, that you still feel something for each other. 

Inspired by EFT relationship counseling

Monsley's program has been developed based on the scientifically-proven EFT couples counseling method. This was devised by Dr. Sue Johnson, who developed the method based on years of practical experience and extensive research. Anoek Gerlings, a relationship therapist with a lot of experience with the EFT method, has drawn heavily on this method when developing Monsley's online program. During the 12-week program, you will go through much the same steps as relationship counseling. The difference is that you will do this together, without the need for weekly therapy sessions.

EFT stands for Emotionally Focused Therapy, which is based on attachment theory. According to this therapy, people are not made to be alone. Everyone needs someone to share emotions with. You learn to express and show your emotions, and in this way learn to understand each other better.

Why are there doubts about the relationship?

To remove doubts in the relationship, it is important first to carefully consider why these doubts arise. Doubts about the relationship often occur when a couple can no longer properly discuss problems with each other. You feel that you have lost that connection with your partner. For example, poor communication occurs when one of you is afraid that a heated discussion will start if you bring something up.

This behavior results from a negative relationship interaction pattern, where you no longer properly discuss problems or sensitive topics with each other. Or because one of the two partners continually seeks confrontation, which can also be a reason for doubts arising about the relationship. Most importantly, you need to be able discuss problems and unmet needs with each other. By stating the relationship issues, you can start to address the cause and try to dispel the doubts. This is how you recognize the signs that your relationship is over.

Monsley's online program can help you discuss problems and unmet needs. You learn once again, as it were, to communicate properly with each other. You learn to know the things that can bother your partner and they get to know what annoys you. You discover why you sometimes react the way you do.

So the program helps you discover and analyze the problems within the relationship. Because only when you and your partner know why the relationship is not going well can you change the dynamic.

Don't delay for too long

The average couple waits six(!) years before deciding to engage a relationship therapist.

When there has been a negative interaction pattern for a long time, it becomes difficult to solve this problem without help. Most people think that relationship support doesn’t work because there is little it can offer. Others find it challenging to raise the topic of relationship counseling.

And that’s one of the key benefits of Monsley's couples counseling program being so accessible. Because you can take a free trial lesson, you know exactly what to expect. And not only can you follow the program yourself, the program also costs considerably less. What’s more, you avoid long travel times, and can follow the program at home, where you feel at ease, and when it’s most convenient.

Still have questions about the program that you’d like to discuss with an experienced relationship therapist? You can email Monsley and will receive a response within 24 hours!

What if your partner doesn’t want to follow the online program?

Do you have concerns about your relationship but your partner doesn’t want to follow Monsley's program (yet)? No problem. The program is basically designed such that you can follow it alone. After all, the program works on the interaction between both partners. If one of them learns to react differently, this could already break through a negative interaction pattern. However, the chance of success is greatest when you follow the program together. But at Monsley, we’ve noticed that when one partner starts on the program, the other often follows.

Want to work on your relationship today?

If you’d like to dispel your concerns about your relationship, you can take out a subscription today for the Monsley couples counseling program. There are several packages to choose from. For most couples, the three-month package is sufficient. However, you can also opt for one that gives you lifetime access. That way, you can follow the program at your leisure and watch the videos again if you feel you need to.

If you have any questions about the online Couple Counseling program, please don’t hesitate to contact us! We will be happy to help you.


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