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Improve your relationship

Improve your relationship

While there are occasionally disagreements in most relationships, if you find it difficult to discuss specific topics, or if conversations often end in arguments, you may be suffering from a relationship crisis. A toxic relationship pattern has developed. You try to avoid confrontation and so avoid discussing sensitive topics. As a result, your emotions are bottled up and it’s only a matter of time before the bucket overflows. In other cases, there are constant confrontations without you ever reaching a solution. In either scenario, it can be challenging to try to improve the relationship without help.

Improving relationships with relationship counseling

Couples who strive to improve their relationship may choose to take relationship counseling. In practice, the average couple with relationship problems wait six years before making this decision. Generally, the problems only get worse in the meantime. Partners reach out to each other less often, and there are fewer and fewer enjoyable moments. Do you think your partner has fear of commitment? Read this article to recognize the 7 signs. If you recognize this in your relationship, but see going to a relationship therapist as too big a step, then you and your partner can choose to improve your relationship through Monsley's online couples counseling program.

Do you have questions about the program that you’d like to submit to an experienced relationship therapist? Simply send us an email with your questions and you’ll receive a response from a trained therapist within 24 hours!

Monsley's online program is based on EFT, or Emotionally Focused Therapy. This form of therapy was devised by the Canadian relationship psychologist, Sue Johnson, based on research and many years of practical experience. EFT couples counseling has been proven to be effective and to improve a large proportion of relationships. EFT is based on attachment theory: the idea that every person needs someone to communicate with about their emotions. Anoek Gerlings, a relationship therapist with extensive experience with the EFT method, has personally developed Monsley’s 12-week self-help program..

Improve your relationship, break the negative pattern

EFT couples counseling and Monsley's online program help you break negative interaction patterns. You and your partner will be able to share emotions again, without fear of the other person's reaction. When you choose Monsley's online program, emotions are no longer concealed but discussed constructively. You learn to explain your annoyances to your partner, and why you sometimes react to them as you do. You learn to understand each other better. Once you manage to break through the negative interaction pattern, emotions can be discussed freely again. And you can address unmet needs and problems again with your partner. The program can help you and your partner restore your relationship to its original healthy state.

Monsley's online couples counseling program lets you improve your relationship step by step. Making it easier to discuss emotions and prevent them from running too high, causing a confrontation.

The negative interaction pattern

There is a negative interaction pattern when you can no longer communicate well with each other. If conversations increasingly lead to arguments, you are less likely to discuss problems or sensitive topics. You are afraid of provoking an adverse reaction from the other person. When emotions can no longer be discussed, you bottle them up, which only intensifies the emotions until the bucket overflows. The arguments get worse, and you may even reach a state of constant tension. As a result, you no longer feel comfortable with each other. And that makes it difficult to retain your feelings for the other person. In other words, a negative interaction pattern is difficult to break without help. Monsley's online program helps you turn that pattern around so it becomes easier to discuss feelings.

Improve your relationship from home

With Monsley’s online couples counseling program, you and your partner can improve your relationship from home. It is completely accessible, and you could even start today. The costs are lower than those of relationship counseling. You can also follow the program anonymously and do not need to discuss personal concerns with a third person. Many couples manage to improve their relationship with Monsley's online program.

Put in the work!

To improve your relationship, you must still love each other deep down. And you must also be prepared to work on the relationship. If both of you are willing to do so, then the program is right for you. It has managed to improve many relationships within 12 weeks. However, you can also opt to run the subscription for a longer period and go through the program at a slower pace.

Would you like to try the program without your partner?

If your partner is unwilling to participate in Monsley's online program, you can also choose to go through the program alone. The program helps improve the interaction pattern. Even when only you learn to respond better to situations, this can already improve your relationship. But the program is most effective when you and your partner both go through it together. You learn to understand each other better and to respond better to each other. At Monsley, we have noticed that if one partner starts the program, the other one often decides to participate later when the program has piqued their interest.

Take that first step towards a better relationship today

Do you and your partner want to improve your relationship? Then take the first important step today by subscribing to Monsley’s online couples counseling program. The cheapest option is to get a subscription, complete the program in 12 weeks and then cancel your subscription within 3 months. In principle, this should be enough to improve your relationship significantly. However, if you’d like lifetime access, or feel you will need more time to work through the program or want to look back over parts again later, you can also opt for a package with lifetime access.

If you’d like to learn more about Monsley's online couples counseling program, please don’t hesitate to get in touch.


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