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Relationship counseling online

Relationship counseling online

Are you and your partner in a relationship crisis and do you want to know how to save a relationship? Every couple experiences problems from time to time. But when you increasingly end up in a negative interaction pattern from which you can’t seem to break free, you may be experiencing a relationship crisis. You no longer communicate effectively with each other. You prefer not to discuss problems with the other person because you’re afraid that raising them will lead to a heated argument. Which is exactly why you must address the subconscious negative interaction pattern and break free from it. With online relationship counseling, getting the right help is easier than ever.

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Monsley offers an alternative for relationship therapy

When counseling is a bridge too far

Are you and your partner in a relationship crisis and do you want to know how to save a relationship? Every couple experiences problems from time to time. But when you increasingly end up in a negative interaction pattern from which you can’t seem to break free, you may be experiencing a relationship crisis. You no longer communicate effectively with each other. You prefer not to discuss problems with the other person because you’re afraid that raising them will lead to a heated argument. Which is exactly why you must address the subconscious negative interaction pattern and break free from it. With online relationship counseling, getting the right help is easier than ever.

Relationship counseling online is based on EFT couples therapy

The relationship counseling program from Monsley is based on EFT couples therapy. This is a form of therapy developed by Sue Johnson, a renowned Canadian relationship therapist. She developed EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) based on 20 years of practical experience and years of research. This form of therapy has been proven to be extremely effective, with 75% of all the relationships improving as a result of following EFT couples therapy. EFT therapy assumes that everyone needs someone with whom emotions can be discussed in detail. We all need a partner and no one is made to live life alone. When the relationship between you and your partner is no longer what it used to be, it’s still more than likely that, with the right help, you will be able to reconnect. Dutch relationship therapist Anoek Gerlings developed Monsley’s online couples counseling program, based on the EFT method. Anoek also has incorporated her own years of practical experience as a therapist when developing this online program.

EFT therapy assumes that everyone needs someone with whom emotions can be discussed in detail. We all need a partner and no one is made to live life alone. When the relationship between you and your partner is no longer what it used to be, it’s still more than likely that, with the right help, you will be able to reconnect.

Dutch relationship therapist Anoek Gerlings developed Monsley’s online couples counseling program, based on the EFT method. Anoek also has incorporated her own years of practical experience as a therapist when developing this online program.

Are your emotions getting the better of you?

In any relationship, emotions will sometimes get the upper hand. It may be that, following a number of stormy discussions, you and your partner are now less likely to discuss emotions with each other. With EFT relationship therapy and the online relationship counseling program from Monsley you learn to discuss emotions with each other.

During the online relationship therapy you get the opportunity to express your own emotions and learn to better understand the other person’s emotions. Unfulfilled needs are expressed and you begin to see how your behavior affects the other. This is really the only way to tackle the underlying problems. Anger, for example, often has a number of underlying problems. It is important not only that this emotion is expressed, but also that the underlying problems are discussed. Which is exactly where relationship therapy online can help you.

The negative interaction pattern

If you and your partner no longer communicate properly, there’s a negative interaction pattern. How you act can only really change if you tackle the underlying issues. Relationship therapy online teaches you and your partner to pay better attention to your own behavior, but also to see why the other person reacts in certain ways. In short, you learn to understand each other better. And because you dare to communicate with each other again, there is no longer a constant negative atmosphere. You’ll rediscover why it was you liked each other so much in the first place!

Many relationships benefit from relationship counseling online

Is it absolutely certain that your relationship can be saved by means of online relationship counseling? It’s important you still feel something for each other and want to work on the relationship. If it is only being done out of a sense of duty by one of you, the chances of a successful outcome are small. But if you and your partner decide that you both really want to work on the relationship, then there’s a good chance your relationship can still be saved.

Relationship counseling online by Monsley

The online couples counseling program by Monsley is a 12-week program. Most relationships can improve dramatically within these 12 weeks. You and your partner can follow the program together without the intervention of a therapist. However, if you need support, you simply email us and we will ensure you have a response from one of our experienced therapists within 24 hours! The program will help you improve your relationship step by step. It has been developed based on EFT relationship therapy and practical experience, and proven itself time and time again. Making it the ideal solution for anyone who’d prefer not to visit a relationship therapist.

EFT Therapy for couples

EFT stands for Emotionally Focused Therapy. It was first developed by a Canadian relationship therapist, Dr. Sue Johnson. She came up with this form of therapy after 20 years of practical experience and a lot of research. EFT has been proven to be effective and can vastly improve 75% of relationships experiencing problems.

EFT couples counseling is based on the attachment theory: that everyone needs a person with whom they can share emotions. In this form of therapy, the underlying problem is defined as the negative relationship interaction patterns that take over in your relationship.

The method helps couples see how certain actions will affect your partner. You will learn to research your own unmet needs, and to share them. For instance, when people express anger, this is usually the result of unmet needs or expectations. You should express anger, but you also want to learn how to discuss the cause of that anger and other negative emotions. Using EFT therapy, you learn to communicate with each other better again.

A negative relationship interaction pattern avoids sensitive topics

When relationship issues are not discussed, neither partner knows what is bothering the other one. As a result, you end up in the same situations over and over again. Without any kind of help, it’s difficult to break through this negative interaction pattern.

When there is a negative relationship interaction pattern, chances are you’re trying to avoid sensitive topics, as you’re both extra careful to avoid a heated discussion. When emotions can no longer be openly discussed, there is no longer a healthy relationship.

This behavior is often the cause of the negative interaction pattern. Because you’re less inclined to discuss expectations and express emotions, there is constant tension. What’s more, the emotions pile up, so it’s only a matter of time before the bucket overflows. But if you can break through the negative interaction pattern, there is room for a healthy relationship.

Monsley’s online Couples Counseling Program helps you recognize and break the negative relationship pattern. After the 12-week online program, you will understand what makes a healthy relationship healthy, and how to resolve your relationship problems. The emotions that previously tended to dominate your interactions are now used to understand each other better. In this way, it becomes clear to you what exactly it is that bothers your partner so much and what affect your behavior has on them. At the same time, your partner is better aware of what impact their actions have on you. As a result, problems and expectations can be discussed without it leading to a heated discussion.

There must still be that little flame

When you’re in the middle of a relationship crisis, it can sometimes be easy to forget why you ever liked your partner. There does still need to be a flame in both of you. If the flame is completely extinguished in either partner, it’s unlikely that the relationship can be saved. To resolve relationship problems, you need to both still want to work on that relationship. If either of you is unwilling to put in the work, then an online program like Monsley’s will be unsuccessful.

Do you and your partner at least agree that you would like to improve the relationship and that the relationship problems need to be resolved? Then the Online Couples Counseling Program is a good start, and the chances are your relationship can still be saved.

Are you and your partner ready to discuss and resolve your relationship issues?

Have you decided to stop waiting? Then you can start today working on your relationship, with or without your partner. The online program lasts 12 weeks, during which time the program will help you get out of your relationship crisis. 

Do you have any questions about Monsley's online Couples Counseling program? Feel free to send us an email so we can answer your questions.

EFT-Relationship therapist Anoek Gerlings
EFT-Relatietherapeut Anoek Gerlings (informatie)

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