Signs that your relationship is ending
Not everyone notices when their relationship isn’t going so well. That’s why the average couple with relationship problems waits too long before investing in and improving their relationship. The sooner you recognize that you are stuck, the more likely you will be able to improve things. Which is why we’ve listed below some signs that a relationship isn’t going well.
Not much to talk about
One of the signs you can recognize when the end of the relationship is near is that there are countless awkward silences. If you go out for dinner, for example, and don't know what to say to each other. John Gottman, a psychologist who has studied relationships closely, found that many couples who were happy for a long time missed the emotional connection. Do you feel estranged from your partner? Are you just not sure what to say? Or do you have Fear of commitment? Then that may be a sign that your relationship is not that good.
When you are no longer intimate
It is impossible to say how often one has sex in a ‘normal’ relationship. Everyone is different and not everyone has the same sexual appetite. Moreover, a relationship has different phases and it’s quite common to become intimate less often with each other after a while. You also don't have to worry if you have less sex for a short while due to external factors. However, if you haven't been intimate for a long time, this may be one of the signs of the end of the relationship. Usually, there are reasons why you are no longer intimate. Do you still doubt your relationship? Read this article!
Minor annoyances can lead to heated discussions
Another sign that could signal the end of the relationship is minor annoyances about certain habits of the other person. In the beginning, you often overlook quirks and habits. For example, if your partner forgets to put their laundry in the laundry basket that’s not a big problem in itself. However, if this happens again and again, it can be experienced as annoying. Small annoyances like that can put a strain on a relationship because they cause stress. Sometimes this could unfold in a time out in your relationship. One partner thinks that the habit is easy to stop, while the other is completely unaware of how annoying it is. Do you recognize yourself in this situation? It doesn't always have to be one of the signs of the end of the relationship, but it’s wise to address the issue.
The way your conflicts unfold
Do you have conflicts every now and then? That's okay and also occurs in healthy relationships. However, the way your conflicts unfold can be one of the signs of the end of a relationship. Are you blaming each other? Then there’s little chance that the conflict will be resolved properly. Other signs during your conflict that can indicate the end of the relationship are sarcasm or if one of you ignores the other completely. If a conflict becomes physical, or your partner threatens to use violence, you might also be in a toxic relationship.
You no longer feel any love for each other at all
The butterflies you feel in your stomach at the start of a relationship will eventually disappear. That’s normal. Yet there must still be love. Are you still happy when you see your partner after a long working day? If you and your partner don't feel at all attracted to each other anymore, then the relationship is showing signs of decay.
A relationship must remain exciting. That doesn’t mean that a little routine is wrong, on the contrary. Still, you want to do something fun now and then. If you do nothing and sit on the couch all day, this can get boring. And if you are bored all the time that’s obviously a bad sign.
Do you see signs that the relationship is ending?
Do you recognize some of these signals? Then it’s advisable to start investing in your relationship! For example, you can choose to follow Monsley's online relationship counseling program. You can complete this online program in 12 weeks. Based on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT couples counseling), the program succeeds in improving most relationships. Emotions are central to the therapy, and you learn to express your feelings and respond better to each other.
More accessible than relationship counseling
The average couple wait six years before deciding to seek relationship guidance. People often think they should be able to solve relationship problems for themselves. Other couples are ashamed of their problems. Many people also mistakenly doubt that relationship counseling works. Many find it difficult to discuss personal issues with a third person.
What’s more, relationship counseling is expensive. You can follow the Monsley online relationship counseling program together with your partner from home. Even though the program is highly effective, the subscription is also relatively cheap. And if you encounter any questions during the program, you can always email us. You will receive a response from an experienced relationship therapist within 24 hours.
Do you want to start working on a better relationship today? Then take a look at our different packages. You can complete the online relationship counseling program in 12 weeks, so if you let the subscription continue for three months, that’s often enough. However, if you want to be able to look back on aspects of the program later, you can also opt for a package with lifetime access. If you have any questions about the program, please don’t hesitate to contact us!